[stag_dropcap font_size=”75px” style=”squared”]C[/stag_dropcap]alcination is the destruction of ego and our attachment to material possessions
This is going to be my maybe 15th time to edit this article. I never thought discussing ego would be such a difficult thing. Never mind editing it, I’m writing something new. Just a few minutes ago, I was writing my journal entry for today complaining how I don’t really know what ego is. Because this is the what, 5th day? of me trying to write about ego and all I get are contradicting answers I couldn’t explain myself.
Then suddenly I stopped typing.. why? Because I didn’t know what to write again? And that’s when I notice something about my writing habit. Every time I use ‘we’ or ‘us’ or refer to people other than me in my sentences, I… here here, it’s happening again, I stop knowing what to write. It’s like my brain is programmed to only know and talk about me. That there’s always something stopping me from including others from my discussion. When I use ‘I’, I just can’t stop typing because my brain never runs out of things to say. And thanks to that I think I found the answer.
I’ve always had this idea that the most important thing in this world is myself because the world doesn’t matter if I don’t exist(hence know nothing about it). No matter how much you care about something, it’s nothing if you’re nothing. That’s a point I believe everyone could understand. So how do we lose ourselves, whom we’ve known since birth? My answer goes back to the Alchemy principle: One is all, All is one.
We’re all different
Do you agree? A lot of times I have felt very different from other people. But after some thinking, it just doesn’t make sense. If everyone is different, then that makes everyone the same. That’s it! We’re all different, and that’s what makes us the same. Everything else actually depends on how you try to look at it. If you try to focus on our differences, there would be a lot, yet if you try to think of how similar is everyone, you’ll be surprised to discover that were all the same on around 98% of things.
“For whatever reason, we like to focus on the two percent that’s different, and most of the conflicts in the world come from that.” -A, Everyday
One is all
Destructing your ego means knowing that everyone is just as important as you. The man who went killing spree, the guy who has been staying in his apartment playing video games all day, the beggar who just sits along the street all day. No matter how small you think someone is, he affects you. This might sound exaggerating but think of it like the butterfly effect. Anything you do now, or not do will be affecting the future of everyone forever.
All is one
This also means that in any way, we also affect everything. The girl thousands of miles away from you might be one of the reasons why you’re reading this right now. Or a soldier who found a silver coin fifty years ago might be the reason that you’re alive today. Anything no matter how big or small produces a series of unstoppable butterfly effect, combining with the others forming this reality.
Ok then,How do I destruct my ego?
First, understand what ego is. I can compare it to the wall around the comfort zone. It’s the thing that will make you always favor yourself. Because you know yourself better than anyone. It’s where you are always better than everyone. But just because you don’t know everyone. You have a concept of yourself and that’s what makes you you. Haha yuyu! But that’s just one side of it. The side where you see everything from inside you.
When you destruct your ego, another side opens. It’s where you also see things from outside.
Where there is no I, but a lot of you.
Before writing this article I tried to have a research about ego, and before ending this, let me share a old legend I found:
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”